Hey mates, Im a 22-year-old woman living in
Australia. I am a student, I work, I explore, I see live music and
go to art shows. I have hobbies and interests, I take photographs,
I draw, I write, I live with a bunch of amazing people in a
beautiful sharehouse in Sydney, and I have sex. I have a lot of
But heres my conundrum: I also have Herpes. The
strain is HSV-1, which most commonly appears as cold sores, but,
lucky me, the outbreaks happen in my sweet lil nether-regions.
I have told most of my sexual partners, but Ive also
left it out of the conversation for others. This wasnt some
vindictive plot to spread the infection to everyone in the entire
world, and it wasnt because I was ignorant about the topic it was
just something that happened sometimes for one of the following
- We used a condom; I hadnt had an outbreak in months.
- We were both plastered.
- The dont ask/dont tell unspoken policy between dead-end
- I was fucking scared, and never saw them again.
To me, these are just general life occurrences that
happen to most sexually-active people from the age of like, 14
until you die. So for anyone sitting on their moral
high-horse right now thinking, Fuck this bitch she needs to
stop being so selfish and be a decent, honest human being,
please try to dismount and listen for the next few hundred
The last two of my reasons are the most problematic
to the spread of what is a very common STI, and I would like to
change that. In order for this to happen, we young people need to
be informed of the facts surrounding Herpes. Im one of those
idealists who actually believes the stigma surrounding this issue
can be changed with honest chit-chat amongst lovers, and after
that, the media will eventually follow suit.
So how did I get Herpes in the first place?
A few years back, I was dating a dude I was madly in
love with, and I just got an itch and a bit of a red uss. It was
only a mild inconvenience at the time, kind of like the symptoms
you get with thrush. When they didnt clear up after using thrush
treatment, I decided to go to the doctor. It was only once I was in
the doctors office that I realised it could be an STI.
I was told that if I had any red bumps, lumps,
lesions or sores, then there was a strong likelihood I had Herpes.